Opinion: Tom Brady and Gisele Bündchen’s split is a lesson in American marriage

Editor’s Note: Jill Filipovic is a journalist based in New York and author of the book “OK Boomer, Let’s Talk: How My Generation Got Left Behind.” Follow her on Twitter. The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely her own. View more opinion on CNN.

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You’ve probably heard by now that legendary NFL quarterback Tom Brady and supermodel Gisele Bündchen are getting a divorce. Already, the media speculation machine is in full force, and everyone wants a reason.

The guesswork is understandable (I, too, want to know why a famous and beautiful couple would split up after 13 years). And given the couple’s celebrity status, the intrusion into a painful and personal moment for them is to be expected, even if it’s also pretty ill-mannered and unkind.

But I suspect the public fascination with the Brady-Bündchen divorce comes from the fact that this couple’s split hits a perfect celebrity sweet spot: These are two people who are absolutely nothing like us, but who nonetheless seem to be splitting up over a familiar gender dynamic that is imminently relatable.

Brady and Bündchen occupied a rare arena of celebrity, insofar as both are among the most recognized people in America, but both are also more often seen than heard. Sure, they did occasional media appearances, but their fame harkens back to what feels like an increasingly bygone age of American celebrity: When people were famous for incredible talent (or, in Bündchen’s case, an incredible beauty and an intuitive sense of how to make the camera capture it).

In our reality-tv-saturated era, where some of the most famous people in America are TikTok teens and self-described “housewives” and the dominant get-famous-quick scheme seems to be to radically overexpose yourself on social media, Brady and Bündchen cast a far more dignified profile.

We frankly don’t know much about their daily lives (I had to Google how many kids they have), and what we do know – the no-nightshades diet, Brady’s fake newspaper, his elementary-school bedtime – are the kind of “celebrities: they’re not like us” details that make them fascinating and somewhere between aspirational and charmingly batty.

Brady’s apparent reputation as a political conservative and his previous friendliness with former President Donald Trump threatened to bring him down to mere mortal status, at least among his more liberal fans, until he sidestepped Trump’s overtures for public support. Scandal was averted, and the Brady-Bündchen unit maintained their cast-in-gold aura.

But their divorce might just bring them down to the earth in the mind of the public. The general consensus among the speculators seems to be that trouble arose when Brady announced he was retiring, but then didn’t actually retire. Bündchen’s public comments indicate a worry about Brady’s health playing a dangerous sport and a desire – after years of sacrificing so that he could…